I got this in an email and thought it was too amazing not to share…
Replacing Bad Habits
Completely eliminating a habit is more challenging than replacing it with a more productive habit. Moreover, it’s crucial to replace the lost natural needs, such as the need to socialize and to be entertained with something healthy.
For instance, it’s easier to replace or balance your addiction to TV with a physical workout or reading, than to suddenly remove the TV from your life.
Interestingly, Prophet Muhammad, the greatest ‘psychologist’ of humanity, illustrated this principle in these words:
“Fear Allah wherever you may be; follow up an evil deed with a good one which will wipe (the former) out, and behave good-naturedly towards people.” [At-Tirmidhi]
Blind Spot: Weeping During Recitation
من الخشوع البكاء عند تلاوة القرآن الكريم، وروى ابن ماجة أن الرسول قال: “اقرأوا القرآن وابكوا فإن لم تبكوا فتباكوا”. وثابت أن أبا بكر وعمر وغيرهما تباكوا عند القراءة وبكوا حتى سال دمع عمر على ترقوته. وقرأ عبدالله بن عمر “ويل للمطففين” فبكى حتى انقطع عن قراءة ما بعدها
It is an attribute of those with profound knowledge of God, and a distinguishing feature of God’s righteous devotees. God Most High said, They fall down upon their faces weeping, and it increases them in humility (Quran 17: 109).
Many hadiths and accounts from the Righteous Forebears have been related concerning this. Among them is from the Prophet, peace be upon him, himself: “Read the Quran and weep. If you do not weep, cause yourself to weep.” [Ibn Majah]
Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, prayed the Morning Prayer in congregation and read Surat Yusuf. He wept until his tears flowed over his collarbone.
Imam Abu Hamid al-Ghazali said, “Weeping is recommended while reciting [the Quran] or witnessing [its recitation].” He said, “The way to achieve this is by bringing sadness to mind by pondering the threats and warnings, the covenants and agreements that it contains, and then contemplating one’s shortcomings with their regard. If this does not bring to mind sadness and weeping, as it does with elite worshippers, then one should weep from the lack of it, since it is among the greatest of calamities.” [Ihy Ulum al-Din]
Source: “Etiquette with the Quran” – Imam al-Nawawi, pg. 45
And for those who know arabic, check this out: البكاء من خشية الله : أسبابه ، وموانعه ، وطرق تحصيله
What hit me most is: “cause yourself to weep”!!…Sometimes, we find it really difficult to get to this level of khushoo3, and this is one of the ways the Prophet peace be upon him taught us to get to that level…
Causing ourselves to weep automatically puts us in the proper position as ‘abeed to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala…and we realize the need we have for Him azza wa jal…
May Allah our sins be forgiven this month inshaAllah..